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the clash

Tue Feb 15, 2011, 6:13 PM
I feel like I'm drifting away from this site more and more lately.  My experience is changing and unfortunately not for the better.  Friendships have drifted away or died a horrible death, people I came to know and like and talk to daily have moved on, I feel less and less inclined to comment or submit anything, and even in the chatrooms I hardly say anything to anyone these days.

I don't know what to do.  Or if I should do anything at all.  I'm not even sure what keeps me logging in every day.  Maybe a false hope that things will improve.

Props to anyone who gets the title.

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:iconthedistractedone:
I'm five days late in writing this because I feel much the same way. Despite that I used to be on here so often, talking to people, submitting terrible pencil drawings and occasionally passable photography, spending so long on here it was ridiculous... despite all that, I just cannot be bothered anymore. The few people I used to talk to that I still know, I have on MSN, and I barely talk to them even. Everyone else... well, people changed and suddenly there was a lot less in common. It's one of those things that you don't realise is happening until it's already practically finished doing so.

Two years ago, I was dead keen on volunteering, since I liked the site so much and wanted to give back to it in some way (a way that didn't involve spending my money, since I had none xD). Now, it'd be cool, but I'd feel sorta distant from it, which would quickly suck the joy from it.

My advice? Don't log on for a few days. See how much you think of dA, and the people you know from it. Then, y'know, hopefully you can figure out what to do. I figured out that I should get right back into art, and take craploads of photos, since occasional comments and such would make me feel pretty good about myself, you know? So I'd probably enjoy my time here, instead of staring at really old comments etc that I just haven't replied to.
Hopefully, doing so would give you some sort of bearing on what keeps you coming back to dA every day to do nothing at all, and you could either give it up, or work more on the parts you like. Either way, it would resolve the problem, and that's a start.

Text wall, fire! Sorry about that. I guess when I don't write for a while, I let it all out at once. :(
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`rapidograph Feb 18, 2011  Professional Filmographer
... I know exactly how you feel... :(
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`anjules Feb 20, 2011  Professional Photographer
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`LadyLincoln Feb 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
I cherish DeviantART and so many of the people here with a full heart, but I certainly can understand and can sympathize where you are coming from. Things seem to change so quickly and people drift and change - which is a necessary thing - but it does not have to be an unhappy thing. We can make the most of what we are given and cherish the moments that we do have. The most important thing for me is in making my own path; and weaving in my own happiness along the way.

Just know that no matter what path you eventually chose: people here love, value and highly respect you. :heart:
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`anjules Feb 20, 2011  Professional Photographer
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`tangledweb Feb 16, 2011  Professional General Artist
I think it's inevitable as we all get older, I'm seeing it as much in the "real world" as we do here. Even if wasn't for Facebook I wouldn't know what half my friends everywhere were up to.
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:iconwyldangel:
Oddly this cropped up a lot yesterday... I was even considering moving my BJD photography off DA... then I remembered that I run a club so I can't... derp.

People drift away from a back to things all the time. If you're feeling at a little bit distant that's okay. If you leave I'll miss your amazing work and your amusing journals but hopefully you'll leave us a link to keep in touch. (It's still my hearts desire to visit NZ)
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~AblativeLove Feb 16, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
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Atleast the jellybeans will always be there.
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~SkipMurphy Feb 16, 2011  Professional General Artist
I can relate to that... and I kind of know what you mean. The old hang out is gone. It was nice for a time. You'd go there and everyone knew who you where and was glad when you showed up. The daily repoire we had with each other was nice, the running jokes... all good. I still find art here and there that I love. I've branched out and have sought new forms of art that helps keep me interested. I don't submit as much as i should or could but that's probably because i'm busy these days. I realized that I waste way too much time here. To the point where it was counter productive in other areas. You know how and where to find me! Don't be a stranger!
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`HazelCraft Feb 16, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Sweetheart, it's all about change. You and everyone around you change over time so it's completely natural to feel this way. I have a couple times and I think I've grown each time I've done it. If you need some time off, take some time off, no matter how long it takes you still have friends here. It doesn't matter how much you interact either, just gather yourself. ^^

It looks like YOU are about to change instead of the people around you at this moment in time... and my advice for that is to go with the flow. Allow the change to happen. :heart:
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